Lessons in Life & Love, from Syria.

The Jewels of Life…

We live in a cold world at the most of times. We live in a societies where cheating, deceits, lies are of no shock to us. We live in a world where rape is the fastest growing crime in many countries. 1 in 3 women will be sexual assaulted in her lifetime, 1 in 6 boys will be sexually assaulted by the time they are 18. We live in a culture at most times where we shove past one another, mutter rude words to strangers under our breath to release our inner problems. We live in a world where we are killing one another in some form or another. We live in a world where human trafficking is a worldwide business totally over 30 billion dollars a year, with around 3 million people being trafficked worldwide, of which around 1.2 million are children. People are killing one another in various countries around the world. People are giving their lives just for a taste of freedom.

Most humans love to turn a blind eye to this small list of world problems, and sadly this truly is a tiny selection of issues around the world.

These are all things that I have to say with deep regret I don’t see changing in my lifetime. It seems these problems are only worsening worldwide. But, we can all do our part to help our world, even if it is just the tiny bubble of life around us, it will make a change.

Now, we are all guilty of having our moments, don’t get me wrong, I am by far no saint. No-one ever will be, but, we certainly can keep ourselves in check.

Recently I have been working within Syria to try to show what is happening to the people within, to try to help with the problems that Syria is facing.

I have of course learned a lot from these experiences, along with all of mine in life. I have been reflecting on all of this in the past week.

In various trips to different areas of Syria during the revolution within, I have watched people die, I have held children in my arms as I have desperately wanted to be able to revive them, I have watched feeling completely empty at the lifeless bodies of young souls taken away for no just reasons. I have watched grown men, young and old go off to clashes and not return alive as they give their heart and soul to fight to protect their loved ones. I have watched the uncontrollable tears as loved ones mourn over the lost corpses with the sound of shelling echo in the air. I have hidden in buildings praying for our lives not knowing where the next shell or rocket may land in complete darkness. I have watched helicopters drop rockets from above and random over villages of people who have little chance of survival. I have listened to a 12 year old tell me how they watched their loved ones being murdered while they are raped as they pray for death.

What does this give me? Perspective of the world we live in. It has proven to me just how cold this world can be. As I watch the tragedy within Syria, and of course, not only Syria is experiencing great crimes, but it is certainly experiencing the worst in this moment of time. Syria however is experience the truth of how cold our world can be as it is still left along with little help in various ways. The world watches as humanitarian crimes continue to be committed.
I wish I knew how to put it into words the things I have seen, the feelings, emotions, thoughts it provokes, but no-one ever would be able to.

Nothing is more precious in this world than love, bonds, truth, honesty, having people around you who truly care for you in the good and bad. Life can be awful short, in any country, even on a perfectly sunny day, tragedy can strike, and I can assure you if that happened, most of us will bear scars of regret, why did I do that, why did I not say this, why, what, and all the rest. I know this will happen.

Why should it take a moment like that to learn the value of love, it shouldn’t. We should value our every moment, treasure the care around us, respect this, forgive, learn from our mistakes that we will forever make through life, let go of resentments, hate, what good is this to add to this cold world around us. Never leave things until it is too late, don’t live in fear, secrets, or lies, live being you with only love in your heart and not only will the world around benefit from this energy, the greatest person to benefit will be you.

I admire many in Syria in so many ways. The bonds they have for one another, how they take care of one another, not only in such a time as now, but in general are beautiful. While of course it is not all like this, but, the majority is like this.

In Western culture, if we had such a crisis, our culture has taught us to lock our doors and take care of ourselves; our culture is much more selfish.

I admire the innocent within people I meet in Syria. Young girls & boys are so respectful, take care of their family, I watched a girl who just turned 17 go to sleep cuddling her teddy bear she was given as a gift. I watch as they help their parents bring up the other children, I watch in awe as they don’t complain.

I think about this when I come back to the my culture, I hear young girls around 14 talking about some guy they just slept with, I watch as they young teens spit on the street, curse like it is the language we are taught in school – maybe it is nowadays, I don’t know. I watch a 16 year old struggle along pregnant with a cigarette in one hand and a young kid already on her arm to an unknown father. I watch as they fight outside of clubs, throwing up on the streets. I look as children bring up children. I watch as much of the youth have no concept of the value of money, care, honesty. I watch the deterioration on a daily basis. Apparently it is ‘cool’ as I was told once to curse, to act like a gangster, to indulge in sexual activities at such young ages.

I think at this point there are too many to blame, parents, culture, media as they admire reality ‘stars’. Class, self-respect, honesty, loyalty are certainly not words of where their meaning exist. This is another topic to write one though.

I ask you to stop in your life for a moment, look around. What can you do different to benefit this world? What small change can you offer this world?

I am not saying everyone needs to go out and give all their money to help a good cause, or get on the first flight to a war zone to help, but if you can help do it. If you know you could change something in your life, in you to better you as a person, do it. Don’t procrastinate.

It may seem that the world is a depressing place from reading this, most run from this type of talk; most prefer to turn a blind eye and just act like they help.

This is not about religion, culture, country you live in, this is about humanity. Help humanity.

Live in love, appreciate what you have around you, don’t complain when you have nothing to complain about, and don’t wait until it is too late. Live in love.

We can all do our part to make the world a beautiful place. There is much beauty around, don’t get me wrong.

I see the tragedy and crimes around the world, but it helps me as a person within because it makes you learn what is important; what is precious. This should be instilled in our hearts though, honesty, love, respect, humanity should be engraved in our hearts.

This may be a little off topic, but I wanted to share this.
I was telling a friend a story the other day, I was in a restaurant, a couple where celebrating 50 years together or up’s and downs but ultimately true love they told me, we all cheered for this in the restaurant. It made me stop and think, what an old culture sadly, this shocks us, yet when you hear he / she cheated, he / she lied etc… are we truly shocked… the answer is no, it is what is common sadly, yet it should not be.

“Be the change you want to see in the world.”

Don’t swim with the other fish in the sea, swim against the tide. Open your heart, open your mind. Open your eyes. Bring more love into this world.

The jewel of life is love.

Yasmin x